Your Marriage Vows. Were Those Promises All Talk?



Posted: Friday, October 01, 2010

by Joe Mac Millan

Do you remember the vows you made when you stood to be married? How well have you done what you promised? Take a look at yourself and see if you really meant what you said.

Do you really mean what you say. A friend says call me and we will get together, you promise to do so but do not. You promise the boss you will make more sales or keep better records or the like, but you do not.

More often than not we make promises every day but nobody seems to care if we do not keep them. They care, but possibly deep down know that you will not keep the promise.

Is this what you have done with your marriage vows? What is the difference between a promise and a vow?

A promise is an informal statement that you tell someone what you will do. This is your word. It is your statement that you will put your reputation on the line that you will do what you say. You will not be released from your promise until you do what you say or the person will let you off the hook and tells you to forget about doing it.

A vow is different. You swear before everyone who will listen that you will do what you are saying you will do. It is a contract between you and your marriage partner. You cannot be released from the vow simply by your spouse or you saying so. Your marriage vow must be dissolved by a divorce court. Even though it can be resolved this way you must look the vows in a different light.

What you must keep in mind is that you stood before your soon to be wife, your family, friends, strangers, the witnesses and God himself and took a vow to love and honor her or him through sickness and health, for better or worse until death do you part. That kind of tells it like it is, right?

The point we are making is that you must do everything humanly possible to make the marriage work because you said you would. It is easy to say but takes a lot of hard work to carry out your vow. You do not squirm to find a way out. That vow is your promise, one that you will never break.

Work hard on making your promise work. Work your heart out. Do not look for a loop hole in the vow. Do these things all of your married life and it will pay dividends in spades.
Joe and Irma MacMillan have spent many years backpacking, skiing, and simply enjoying life in the mountains of British Columbia. Their website Whistler Outdoors is full of tips on snowboarding, camping, kayaking, rafting, camp cooking and fishing. They met on a blind date in 1957 and are still married. Take a look at their story here About us

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